For most people sexuality is a private area of life which can be difficult to discuss openly. Culturally or socially we may feel that our sexual feelings, which can be an integral part of who we are, have been repressed or eroded.
This in turn can lead to us adapting or conforming to the accepted “norm” and not truly being ourselves, as such it can sometimes be difficult to connect to aspects of our identity that may appear outside the norm. For some there is a clear understanding from an early age about their sexual orientation whereas for others this only becomes clearer later in life. Questions may form around feelings toward the opposite or same sex.
Sexuality is part of who we are and not what we choose to be. It includes being gay, bisexual or heterosexual all of which need to be respected. Being open about our sexuality is not always easy and can lead to fear and anxiety especially if there is a risk of being rejected by family and friends.
Gender
Being male or female is called gender identity and it is often assumed that it is determined by our biological sex. This is not always correct, and it is safer to think of gender in terms of an individual’s subjective sense of being male or female. This is different from sexual orientation as any gender identity can be gay, bisexual or heterosexual. Being confused, distressed or uncomfortable about birth gender is known medically as gender dysphoria. Due to the emotions involved it is often difficult to discuss, there may be a fear of rejection or not being understood. Those experiencing distress may find talking to others who have had a similar experience or knowledge of this area to be helpful.
